If you really want someone, then why hold back? You only get one shot at life, do what makes you happy.

– Anonymous

As I was scrolling through a social networking site, I came across a post by an unknown person [since he/she posted it in a group, where someone can express or ask and their identity is hidden based on their courses.] The point is the person concerned is in doubt as to which is the right thing to do : when you love someone, let go or stay?

The question triggered a lot of possible explanations to me. However, same numbers of questions also came into my mind. One positive energy is opposed by a negative one. We cannot do something happy without experiencing pain and problems. It is all based on our decisions since we are the actors in our own stages of life. The better and safer question that can be identical to question above is : Would you choose to be happy now or experience it later? Make it hard for you today or solve the problems the next day?

Remember that God gives us life in order to live. We live in order to be happy. Most often, life gives us challenges by making the things we are happy about unfit for the happiness of others. There are balances that we should maintain and that what makes us confused especially when another human being is involved in a situation – yes, I am talking about LOVE. The love not only for the opposite sex but also the love we feel unto everything that surrounds us. Love, if we choose to continue, follows dependence. We treat them as the walls that shape our being. Right then and there, we feel danger when they are not around us either physically and emotionally apart. We give time to them and that makes us do things we love with them for us to show what kind of a person we are. In the process we forget our own desires and happiness. It follows that we are going far away from ourselves and what we used to and start to create a world with the people that make us feel special. The sad thing is, we overlooked at the fact that people change; one day they hold our hand and the next day they cut our wrist and bring that little piece from us with them as they leave. Imagine when someone cuts off our wrist? It hurts, and that what happens when they start to leave us especially when the affection we’re feeling is stronger than the day we first met them. It is because you chose to stay. But nothing is wrong when you stayed, you just assumed that they will do the same thing – but they won’t. Even our own shadows leave us in darkness.

On the other hand, when you start to feel something about someone and you choose to keep distance, chances are you are able to run away from pain or you’re on your way to the final resort called regret. There is pain one way or another. Its difference is the intensity of feeling it; the impact it can give to us.

As human beings, we are capable of feeling hurt, abandoned, and ignored. As a lover, we experience an even unbearable pain that seems to last. Always remember that once we feel like pain is striking us because of the decisions we made for someone important, it doesn’t strike even. We experience it alone and that is undeniably the worst part. That’s the price of selfless love – it hurts whether we love the right or the wrong one.

Hold back or stay? It doesn’t matter, there is always an end to it. We just have to be happy while we’re in it. Love is a one shot feeling.